My husband is a busy, busy businessman who travels the world over to meet his international clients. He runs his own practice as a performance improvement consultant, helping clients with process improvements and helping cash-strapped businesses liquidate their assets etc.
I, on the other hand, am a full time housewife and a mother to our 2 adorable daughters, Kathryn and Kaitlyn. Kathryn is turning 5, while Kaitlyn just turned 2. These 2 hyperactive kids of mine takes up my whole day and all my energy when it comes to running errands and keeping them busy till their dad comes home. Hence, that leaves little time for me.
They usually follow a routine, waking up at approximately 9am in the morning when their dad leaves for work. I will then kiss my husband goodbye and start preparing breakfast to kick off the day. This will be followed by a daytime play session, then lunch, and some outdoor activities in the evening with the kids before their dad comes home at around 5pm. We will all have dinner together, and then it’s time for the girls to play with their dad and spend some quality time. He usually reads them a book, and puts them to sleep by approximately 9pm.
But on days when my husband goes out of town, usually in stretches of three to four days, the girls and I will miss him dearly. We miss our small talk, random hugs and quick kisses in the doorway. I also miss his smell, as he usually has this signature cologne which he has been using for years since we met, and I absolutely love the smell on him. Powdery, yet masculine, it reminds me of all the sweet memories we’ve had together as a couple. It is a Hermes Homme 1921 which I bought for him as our first anniversary gift, and he has been using the same cologne ever since.
Lately, especially with the girls growing older, and starting to ask more questions about his whereabouts, he’s been leaving his cologne trail on random items in the house to remind us of him and his presence. He usually sprays some on our blanket to comfort me at night when I sleep. There are also whiffs of the scent on the girls’ dolls and soft toys. When the girls ask, I will tell them that he’s out of town for a few days, and have left the dolls to accompany them while he’s away. In return, I occasionally spray some of my perfume onto his handkerchief and tuck it into his suitcase so he has a piece of me away from home, too.
I’d love to think that it is the little things that we do for each other, to let one know that we miss them and are thinking of them, that keeps our relationship alive. And I surely hope this tradition continues with my daughters and their own families.